As much as I am excited to go there are also many factors that I have had to work through and not everyone is happy we are leaving.
The last 7 years have been tough for us as a family. It was hard being back in NZ at such short notice from India. We had to work through what had happened and the disappointment we felt and work out how to pick up and carry on. I'm not sure we did that particularly well but it's been a process that we've all journeyed through individually. We've had 5 family deaths, both my Grandmothers, my Father in law, my brother (age 48) and my cousin (age 46). My Father in law, cousin and brother all passed away within 3 months of each other.
We've also had family and extended family situations arise that we have had to work through and all this had an effect on us.
It was hard telling my parents about the opportunity to head to Bangladesh, it seems callous to be leaving them when my brother hasn't even been gone for 2 years. It's been a hard few years for them too. I know some people will be judging us for leaving them and wondering how I could do this to them, however, as much as they would love us to be staying they are also being extremely supportive and are already planning a trip to see us.
It's hard leaving our three daughters, one is working in Australia, one is married and working/studying in Auckland and our third is studying in Wellington. It's strange not having them with us this time and it's hard for them not having a home base here in NZ. There have been some frank discussions about unresolved issues for some of them on their return from India. It's been about listening and learning from past experiences and has begun an honest discussion on how it was for them. It's so important that we listen to each other and voice our concerns. They have some great insights to learn from. Two of our daughters are already planning on coming over to visit next year. Although they have concerns they are also excited for us and perhaps a little jealous not to be coming too.
Of course it's hard leaving DC's family too but it's nice to know his Mum is well looked after by the rest of his siblings.
This might all sound like doom and gloom but I just want to be honest. Decisions are never easy. Our decision to go might appear quick and without hesitation but all these factors have been on my mind. I am so extremely excited to have this amazing opportunity but if it wasn't such a clear God orchestrated opportunity, I'm not sure I would even be considering it.
The last 7 years have been tough for us as a family. It was hard being back in NZ at such short notice from India. We had to work through what had happened and the disappointment we felt and work out how to pick up and carry on. I'm not sure we did that particularly well but it's been a process that we've all journeyed through individually. We've had 5 family deaths, both my Grandmothers, my Father in law, my brother (age 48) and my cousin (age 46). My Father in law, cousin and brother all passed away within 3 months of each other.
We've also had family and extended family situations arise that we have had to work through and all this had an effect on us.
It was hard telling my parents about the opportunity to head to Bangladesh, it seems callous to be leaving them when my brother hasn't even been gone for 2 years. It's been a hard few years for them too. I know some people will be judging us for leaving them and wondering how I could do this to them, however, as much as they would love us to be staying they are also being extremely supportive and are already planning a trip to see us.
It's hard leaving our three daughters, one is working in Australia, one is married and working/studying in Auckland and our third is studying in Wellington. It's strange not having them with us this time and it's hard for them not having a home base here in NZ. There have been some frank discussions about unresolved issues for some of them on their return from India. It's been about listening and learning from past experiences and has begun an honest discussion on how it was for them. It's so important that we listen to each other and voice our concerns. They have some great insights to learn from. Two of our daughters are already planning on coming over to visit next year. Although they have concerns they are also excited for us and perhaps a little jealous not to be coming too.
Of course it's hard leaving DC's family too but it's nice to know his Mum is well looked after by the rest of his siblings.
This might all sound like doom and gloom but I just want to be honest. Decisions are never easy. Our decision to go might appear quick and without hesitation but all these factors have been on my mind. I am so extremely excited to have this amazing opportunity but if it wasn't such a clear God orchestrated opportunity, I'm not sure I would even be considering it.
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